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Celebrating Harley School Alumni

Presenting the Harriet Bentley Distinguished Alumni Award and the 2023 Life of Purpose Award Winners

The Harriet Bentley Distinguished Alumni Award

The Harriet Bentley Distinguished Alumni Award was established during Harley’s 75th anniversary celebration in 1992. This award is given to a member of the alumni body who has gained distinction by their outstanding contribution to Harley or the general community. This award is very selective and is not meant to be given annually. The award has previously been awarded only six times since its creation 31 years ago.

This year’s recipient of the Harriet Bentley Distinguished Alumni Award is Debra Schaller Willsea ’73. Deb was nominated by her former teacher, Alex DeSantis (English, 1971-2009). Deb has been involved at Harley for over 50 years. As a student, a faculty member (Middle School, 1977-1981), a parent (to Sam ’06 and Will ’10), and a board member (2013-2022). She and her husband, Peter Willsea ’72, have been huge supporters at Harley through their board and committee work, as alumni event hosts and representatives, and philanthropically. They received the Sands-Stern Award in 2014, an award recognizing community members who have demonstrated their extraordinary commitment to The Harley School through contribution of their service and passion. 

Deb, a graduate from St. Lawrence University and the Warner School at the University of Rochester, has spent much of her life working within the educational realm as a consultant with expertise in strategic development, collaborative community partnerships, grant writing and project management that includes a focus on serving diverse populations.  

Deb has been involved a good number of non-profit drives including supporting families in Haiti through nourishthechildren.com, working with pre-K teachers and family childcare providers through the Rochester Museum and Science Center to develop hands on STEM programs and events, and serving as a family programming chair for the Rochester Public Library. 

One of her biggest endeavors has been the development of the Toy Library in Rochester, a “lending library” that provides access to thousands of toys to children and families in the Rochester area. Under Deb’s leadership, Rochester’s Toy Library opened in 1984. It is now located at the Lincoln branch of the Rochester Public Library and serves 10,000 families annually. Every item in the collection has been specifically selected for quality and safety to support the cognitive, creative, social-emotional, perceptual, and physical development needs of children. The Rochester Toy Library has been a model for toy libraries nationally and internationally. 

Deb, currently a resident of Cape Cod, has taken the concept to her new home and led the initiative to create a toy library on the Cape. The Cape Cod Toy Library is now open and includes an Outdoor Oasis space to provide, “enriching community play space accessible to Cape residents and visitors throughout the year.” Deb uses her passion to play a critical role in child and family development and connectivity. She represents “the Harley way” in every way.

Honoring our Harley Life of Purpose Awardees

The Life of Purpose Award (formerly Lives of Great Purpose Award) was created in 2018 to highlight Harley graduates who embody The Harley School mission: to encourage our students to lead lives of true purpose, joy, and meaning; and to contribute to making our world better. This can be demonstrated through career accomplishments, volunteerism, or other personal endeavors.

Kaarin Coe ’88 was nominated for the Life of Purpose Award by her mother, Barbara Allard Coe ’63 because she believes her daughter has excelled in her career as a Clinical Social Worker in the United States Navy Medical Service Corps. Kaarin’s therapy skills include PTSD, Moral Injury, Substance Abuse and Suicide Prevention. On the administrative side, she updated all documentation and rewrote the Standard Operating Procedures at the base in Diego Garcia, and at the Norfolk Naval Hospital Substance Abuse Facility she was the Department Head for a 75 bed inpatient facility and four satellite outpatient and aftercare locations.

Jan Costello ’68 was nominated by her classmate Nell Davidson ’68. According to Nell, her friend Jan, a lawyer and professor at Loyola University in Los Angeles took her career in a direction that identified human and societal needs and began addressing them with all of her talents: advocacy, teaching, and writing on behalf of vulnerable populations that included youth at risk, individuals with mental health conditions and other disabilities, as well as people living in poverty. She did this through direct, human engagement with affected individuals and also worked at a macro level to improve their lives through national committee and foundation work within professional organizations addressing these needs. She has most recently given presentations on the legal and ethical issues raised in Treating Transgender Children. Jan is the sister to fellow Harley alum, Keeley Costello from the Class of 1964.

Vickie DelMonte Durfee ’75 is the founder and Executive Director of nonprofit Full Circle Home an organization that strengthens the connections with deployed service members and their loved ones at home. The idea of Full Circle Home started in 2007 after her son, Gil (in attendance tonight with his mom), a Marine stationed overseas, asked his mom to put together a gift from him for his then fiancé, now wife, Ashley. Vickie was nominated by Full Circle Home volunteer, Jennifer Hearne who said: Vickie works tirelessly to facilitate deployed service members around the world with the ability to send Mother’s Day and Christmas gifts to their support people at home. She travels the country garnering support of our troops. We send over 1200 boxes of gifts (1200 boxes x 12 gifts = 14,400) at Christmas alone. Vickie is dedicated to our troops and their loved ones. Vickie and her husband, Jim Durfee from the class of ’75, have three children (Andrea ’02, Gil (attended Harley from 1989-2000) and Archie ’09. Grandson Carlin graduates from Harley in June!

Brooke Mayer ’04 was nominated by her dad, Sandy Mayer, who says, “I have watched my daughter blossom into a caring and altruistic woman, concerned about the earth and its sustainability. Everything she has done is a dedication of her work towards making the world a better place in which to live, always considering fairness, equity and justice.” Her work includes designing a desk specifically for people suffering from dementia and Altzheimer’s Disease, to working with a local senior living facility in Ithaca to redesign their dining area to promote increased sociability during meals, and her years of environmental/sustainability work with New York City Parks Department, New York State Center of Excellence for Food and Agriculture at Cornell Agri-Tech, and now with solar technology at Greenspark Solar. Brooke is married to Hal Kieburtz from the Class of 2004 and is the sister of fellow graduate, Marc Mayer ’98.

Matt Present ’04 was nominated by family friend and fellow physician, Sandy Mayer. Matt has made a huge contribution to the Rochester Community and its children.  After finishing medical school at the University of Chicago, he returned home to do his pediatric residency at URMC’S Golisano Children’s Hospital where he recognized the urgent need for literacy in Rochester’s children.  In the second year of his pediatrics residency at URMC, he founded the Rochester chapter of Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library, an international organization that mails a brand new, free book every month to children under five. Initially starting a pilot project in zip code 14605, Rochester Dolly Parton Library has now expanded to the entire city—reaching more than 1,800 children, ages 0-5. Matt says none of this would be possible without the help of his friend and classmate, Katie Baldwin ’04.  Matt is now Chief Resident in Pediatrics as well as a new parent himself, along with his spouse, Maddy August, Class of 2005. He is also the brother to Rachel Present Schreter ’02.

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