Harley Alumni College Day offered Upper School students a candid look at college life through the eyes of recent graduates. Alumni shared thoughtful reflections about fit, mindset, and making the most of both Upper School and college, always with the reminder that there is no single “right” path.
A consistent message across all grades was reassuring: you don’t need to have everything figured out yet. Alumni spoke openly about worrying too much in Upper School—about grades, AP choices, college lists, or what others were doing. In hindsight, many of those concerns mattered far less than they once thought. A couple bad grades are okay. Obsessing over college too early isn’t necessary. What matters more is staying curious, exploring interests, and taking care of yourself.
When it came to the college search process, alumni encouraged students to focus on fit. Apply to a range of schools, research programs that genuinely interest you, and, if possible, visit campuses to experience student life, location, and culture. Alumni emphasized the importance of asking not just “Is this a good school?” but “Will I be happy here? Will I feel like myself?” They noted the differences between urban campuses and traditional college towns, and how each offers unique advantages and challenges.
Alumni also reflected on how well Harley prepares students academically, especially through writing, reading, and discussion. Many felt confident entering college-level writing and analysis and credited Harley’s emphasis on thoughtful dialogue and project-based learning. That said, the transition to college academics, particularly large lecture classes, can be a major adjustment. Sitting in a lecture hall with more students than an entire grade level at Harley can make it harder to ask questions or stay focused. Alumni advised students to adjust expectations, find learning strategies that work for them, and take advantage of smaller discussion-based classes when available.
Time management and independence emerged as another major shift. In college, no one tells you what to do or when to do it. Stopping procrastination becomes harder, spacing out work is essential, and learning how to manage unstructured time makes a big difference. Alumni encouraged students to practice these skills now—using planners, creating routines, and building habits that support both productivity and well-being. Just as importantly, they emphasized the need for balance: getting enough sleep, practicing self-care, and not burning yourself out in the name of achievement.
The topic of college essays prompted reassurance, especially for younger students. Alumni shared that essays can take many forms—creative, reflective, academic, or personal—but perfection isn’t the goal. What matters is authenticity. The essay should be a genuine reflection of who you are, and it’s only one part of the application. And for freshmen and sophomores: there’s no need to worry about it now!
Beyond academics, alumni highlighted the importance of exploration. Many wished they had taken more risks in Upper School—trying classes they weren’t “good” at, exploring creative fields, or stepping outside their comfort zones socially. Others shared that unexpected experiences, interests, or classes in college led them in new and fulfilling directions. Plans change, and that’s not a failure, it’s part of the process.
Making friends in college was another shared experience. Alumni acknowledged that leaving a small, close-knit community like Harley can feel intimidating, and that friendships don’t always form immediately. It often takes time, intention, and a willingness to say “yes” to spontaneous plans. Remembering that everyone is in the same situation helps, as does being open, proactive, and patient with yourself.
Finally, alumni encouraged students to take full advantage of the resources available to them—both at Harley and in college. Teachers, advisors, support services, clubs, and extracurricular opportunities are there to be used. Colleges, alumni noted, often offer far more academic, mental health, and personal support than students expect.
Above all, alumni urged students to stay open, curious, and to be kind to themselves. Harley supports students’ passions, ideas, and ambitions in ways that make the transition to college smoother. By embracing opportunities now, focusing on what truly interests you, and allowing your path to evolve, you’ll enter college ready for anything!
